Single ? What's wrong with that?

My teacher once told me, all livings things have mates. Humans are no exception. The government propaganda for early child birth, your relatives' cynical eyes when they find you single in your 30s, your peers getting married and are expecting their first child. How many times have you heard, " when is your turn coming?". Yes, you have become a conversational piece just because you are single!

Being single is taboo in today's society and singles face loads of societal pressure to get married. We were brought up to think that to be successful, you must study hard, get a good job, marry a good spouse and have a family. I believe everyone, like yours truly, would love to fall in love and settle down with someone "right" for us. Perhaps some were more efficient than others, the rests may have had a tougher time finding their soulmates and they refuse to settle. In this case, staying single is not an option, it is the only thing to do, it is natural.

Is there a soulmate for everyone? Sounds scary if you can't find that soulmate, worse still, you lost him or her to someone else! But hey, judging from the number of marital problems and breakups, I am more convinced that there is definitely someone right for everyone of us. Perhaps love is a department where patience is the key to success. In the meantime, singles really do not have a better thing to do than stay single. Being single allows them to be free and focus on their individual needs. I do not believe in seeking happiness in others. We find that within ourselves. Too many fail to see that and get attached or married for the wrong reasons; they settled.

I am risk averse when it comes to matters of the heart. Getting it right the first time is my intention. I know what I want and I am going to take my time. As long as you are not looking for that perfect person, your time will come. So why rush? My conclusion? Just follow your heart. Meanwhile I am going to continue to smell the roses and sip my coffee.