Toxic Bachelors and Exclusivity

Do you notice that there seems to be more unmarried women than unmarried men. Women who are successful in what they do and are single are hardly given a second look. Every guy just aims for that model or air stewardess. Why? Because they look beautiful. Hence, you are penalised for being not beautiful whereas your life would have been much easier if you were officially claimed to be beautiful.

Men in their mid 30s and later 40s who remained single are what the society of women call toxic bachelors. Why toxic? Because they are totally non-commital. They just hop from one relationship to another. But they are still desirable! Every woman wishes to discuss exclusivity at one point of their relationship, but not the men. Try discussing that topic and you will never see him again. Do some men then actually bring up the subject of exclusivity. Of course some do, then comes the question what makes them do that? I have never brought up the subject with any of the guys I know. Maybe that is why I managed to keep the friendship going.

Many couples ideally talk about marriage and exclusivity, which gives the impression that we can all fulfill our needs in one person. Maybe that is not the case. Some find their needs fulfilled in more than one individual. Maybe we can fulfill our more important needs through our soulmate. Notice that I mentioned soulmate and not soulmates, which tells you that society again tells you there is only one out there if he or she is still around! What if that soulmate never crosses your path, what are you going to do? Is it then better to find all our needs in several individuals than being left on the shelf?

My love life or lack of one has not been that exciting at all. Then again, I would have hated going through a divorce with the wrong one. But if I had to choose, I would still love to fulfill my emotional needs with just one person, my soulmate. Meanwhile I just fulfill my needs through the friends I have.