Love, is it agony or ecstacy?

When I am in love, I love to share. That is communicate with my beloved one. I love to share my thoughts, have good conversations about our interests and beliefs in life. Why do I enjoy that? Becauses it increases my understanding of his needs and personality. But you know what? Talking, just talking, is just not what men enjoy!

It has been days since I last talked to Zen. I do miss him but why didn't I call him? Well for one, when a guy calls, he is interested. When a woman calls, she is desperate! Meanwhile, sometimes I feel more agony that ecstatic about our encounter. In a relationship, when do you know it is not right? When partners stop talking to each other or when one of partners is relunctant to converse often? If men were not naturally built to be good conversationalists, does it mean that relationships with women will always face problems and things can never work out until they love to converse openly and regularly?

When I mentioned my encounter to my girlfriends, instantaneously they will ask, "how often do you meet? How often do you guys talk?" Now it seems to me that males and females do not have the same value attached to good conversations. When guys talk, they are bonding. When women talk, they are gossiping! Some men may say that they love women who can communicate. Hence, the women think that talking is an attractive trait and they talk and look for opportunities to talk, just talk! Later they find themselves accused of being too 'chatty'! How, then, do you strike a balance?

When I reflect on my past relationships, I wondered. There were occassions when I was in a relationship but I didn't like a guy calling me every day just to talk. On the other hand, there were guys whom I was just looking forward to the times when I could talk to them and you bet every day. In the former, I was not crazy about them or probably not in love with them. In the latter, I was head over heels over them. Maybe that is a good sign for telling one whether he is interested in you or not and whether you feel the same way. Therefore, when two parties are always eager to be together and talk to each other, that is when you know it is mutual.

Maybe I have found my answer. When two parties are truly open with each other and place great emphasis on regular communication, that is when you know it is right. Otherwise, be brave, you know it is all wrong and you have to move on.