Partners in a relationship

My dream relationship is one which that touches my heart each time I play it in my mind.

I wrote a little description on my ideal relationship in my homepage. It is one filled with genuine love and sharing. I came from a family where my grandfather and father were the head of the household. I have always respected them because they knew what was best for me. I managed to do well because I followed. I wonder, do our relationships eventually follow our father figures? go figure.

My grandfather is the man I respected most in my life. Noone I know can ever compare to him. He was born in China and he settled down in Malaysia. He arrived in Malaysia from China with nothing. He then mustered his wealth in real estate, bus companies and was a great politician. He succeeded because my grandmother, such a sweet woman, was very supportive. I always admired him for his wit, his charitable attitude and his wisdom. He died when I was twelve and I was devastated by his death. But I know he is still watching over me from above and because of that, I know he still lives within me.

My Grandfather would take me to the aquarium, listen to me sing and talk to me. He would carry me all the time and according to my grandmother, loved me most amongst the grandchildren. I guess I was greatly influenced by my Grandfather in the way I chose to lead my life.

I do believe my picture of an ideal relationship has a lot to do with the kind of life I led when I was with my grandpa. Grandpa would always work throughout the day as he was a workaholic. After work or during lunch, we played and he would talk to me. I would sing. My job was to entertain him when he was stressed. I guess he loved my humor and believe me, I was extremely talkative. Sometimes when my dad played the cassette where he recorded my voice as I was singing as a 'child star', I laughed. I sounded so funny. But grandpa never stopped me from growing at my own pace. This eventually, together with my dad, developed my talent in singing. They discovered my talent and I followed, so now I reap the harvest.

In relationships, I do believe males and females have a different role. The males were always the leaders where they had both parties' interest at heart. My dad and grandpa were logical people and they make the best decisions. They were also what I call survivors. I can always count on them to weather through the bad times.

My role was more of a supportive role and that was the role my mum played too. Dad always look for my mum for wisdom, which is different from logic. I must say they did well together. Now it is my turn to play mum's role. I am able to do so because dad always gathered his friends around me and all these uncles were my only friends whom I learnt from.

When God made man, did he think he could do better and therefore, created women? LOL. Frankly, I don't think so. I have always thought I would be happier as a partner playing a supporting role. He would navigate and all i have to do is steer the wheel. At least the ship will sail and reach its destination! It is not because decision making is an arduous task, but I do think my eventual partner would be one who would have acted in my interests ( that would be a blessing) and I would have preferred my mum's role as a supportive wife and lifetime partner to my dad.