SDU

SDU a matchmaking agency established by the Singapore Government to encourage more marriages and hopefully more babies. The Singapore Government is considerably concerned about the declining birth rate in Singapore. However, society viewed members in the SDU as being single, desperate and ugly. In its last attempt to change its unpopular image amongst singles, it has announced that SDU is meant for the sexy, desirable and unique citizens only.

When I reached home, my mum asked me if I would participate in the matchmaking activities organised by SDU. I gave her a straight no. Then I pondered for a while, was I going to continue to leave love to chance or do I actually believe that no guy ever wants to settle down?

As I surfed the net, I was reading some articles on matters of love. Many of them contributed to a common theme " How to make a guy commit"
or "how to progress from a date to a relationship then to marriage". Now these are advice given to women not men. Obviously, I came to the conclusion that men did not want to commit. "She Drops an Ultimatum" (SDU) and he thinks "Settling is Definitely Unpractical" (SDU), that does not a marriage make! Men love their freedom and when they are in a relationship, it means they have to sacrifice time from other activities to be with their steady girlfriends. Believe me if the problem were as big as Mount Everest, most women would only have made it to Base Camp One! We sure have an arduous task ahead of us.

Men would love to date perpertually if they could. I am serious! They would move from one female to another. There is absolutely no reason for them to commit to one woman (at least that is what they think). To do so they must find one person who can fulfill all their needs. Isn't this an impossible dream? Men would, therefore, love to fulfill their needs through different women. When men fail to commit, we say they are scared. As they move from one woman to another, we termed them as challenging males. Aren't we females giving them a medal for identifying a correct feeling? We do that all the time, I am pissed, and what do we get? We are accused of being fickle! Can we, as females, regard relationships like a man? We simply find our pleasures in several men and when we do that, end up with problems commiting to any single guy? If a guy asks to commit, just say no and move on to other options? Females generally find this process to be emotionally draining, but perhaps, that is the way to go in the 21st Century.

Unless men learn to treasure a woman's worth, they certainly have no business ruining women's lives. Too many women were willing subjects and fall prey to the dating game. The survivors, however, will be emotionally detached from the entire dating scene and will never expect a relationship or marriage as a resultant effect.

Back to the subject of SDU and its objective. I do not believe match making is in any way helpful if the mindsets of males do not change. Women can continue to live in disillusion or choose to be practical and remain their independent selves. Every successful man has a woman supporting him. No wonder successful men are a dying breed. When Zen asked me if I were prepared to be celibate for life, I figured that maybe my future was revealed to me through him.. Am I really done with men? Go figure.