Foreign talent

Singaporean raised a great hue and cry whenever the Government introduces new or relaxes the old foreign talent policies. The competition gets stiffer and Singaporeans are afraid that they will lose out.

When my sister mentioned to me that the ratio of men to women is 1: 2, I instantly thought of the foreign talent policy. Were they introduced to deal with our demographic imbalance as well? I figured that it could be a spinoff from such policies. Singaporean women have been known to be tough and harbor high expectations of their potential mates. The successful Singapore women were definitely the ideal mates for all men. The model Singaporean woman has been described to be pretty, loving, successful, intelligent and stylish (maybe that is why SIA leverages on the concept of the Singapore Girl !). She is supportive of her husband and her family. They are very desirable but there are too few to go around. They were also often a more stressful option when compared to women from other asian regions like the Philippines, Thailand, China and Vietnam, even when compared to the average Singapore girl. Women from other asian regions were often perceived to be more submissive compared to the true Singapore girl. While the rewards are good, was the average Singapore male willing to put in the effort and risk everything to obtain her?

When the average Singapore male complains about foreigners stealing their local gals, apart from their jobs, I wondered if the average Singapore male was what women needed? Would isolating the Singaporean female from the foreigners help to increase their success rate? In prehistoric times, the female admired and respected the cavemen who held the club and hunted for her. Here we have the Singapore males putting down their clubs even before the hunt began! To do that, he seeks to isolate her from the rest of the tribes so that she is not aware of what other men from other tribes can offer. Will they ever grow up? What do Singapore men do when they are helpless? They nicknamed the Singaporean women “Sarong Party Girls”, or SPGs in short, even though they aren’t.

How about the foreign men? Are they any superior compared to the Singaporean males? Are the fears of the Singaporean men justified? I may have dated asian guys and non-asian guys alike but I never found men who truly loved me for who I am. As they say, no pain no gain. Were the Singaporean men willing to endure the pain? I didn’t think so with their KS (Kiasu or afraid to lose) attitude. They are afraid to fight a losing battle. I sometimes wonder if the asian men were different from their western counterparts because of their upbringing. The typical chinese family adores the sons more than the girls. They are very protective over their sons. In asian families, the sons will live with their parents and get pampered till they get married (and the pampering continues!). On the other hand, in the western world, children leave their parents and live independently at age 14 or 16 years old. Therefore, there is a greater tendency that western guys mature faster than their asian counterparts.

Women love men who are independent and offered her the security she needed. Maybe that is why the western counterparts appear more appealing to some Singaporean women. Someone whom she can look up to for advice when she needed one. A protector and a lover for life. How could Singapore men offer that sense of security if they continued to portray themselves to be Sorry Pitiful Guys (SPGs) who hope that the Singapore female will forgo the ‘fight’ for love? I always believed that courtship was invented in the West where it was more applicable since women always emphasised equal rights amongst genders. In the asian community, the emphasis was on matchmaking and dowry. Where was the need for competition? On the other hand, many foreigners (by default are not here to stay) do not appeal to the model Singaporean woman because she wants stability and security. My advice to Singaporean guys, look to the bright side and learn to compete. Since the true SPGs are not the desirable Singaporean women, aren’t your foreign counterparts doing the ‘weeding’ for you? That’s one good argument for the expansion of foreign talent in Singapore.