Inspiration

How important is inspiration in a relationship? One of the reasons why I was attracted to my first love was because he inspired me. His character and beliefs attracted me and my encounters with him were a learning experience in every way. I was always excited whenever I learnt something new. When Zen told me that he hopes that I will never stop writing, I told him that it was he who inspired me to write. Therefore, if there is nothing more to learn about Zen, that will be the time I write my epilogue.

Soulmates need to connect spiritually as well. They share the same interests, desires and understanding. During the stage of exclusivity, they learn as much as they can about each other. They will also have to develop the ability to accept and be receptive of their partner's qualities and imperfection. Noone is perfect, so the sooner you come to terms with that fact, the sooner you find your soulmate.

If partners were inspired by each others attributes, there is a good chance that that inspiration will help them overcome the weaknesses in their relationship. They learn to focus on the good in the relationship and forget imperfection. Furthermore, if your partner is someone inspiring to you, you will never want to give up learning about that person. She intrigues and interests you, and you learn to be respectful. The woman will then be self-assured through his support. That is the formulae to a successful relationship.

However, many couples overlook this prerequisite and physical gratification becomes the goal in a relationship. They do not spend sufficient time together to learn about each other. After marriage, when they continue their learning journey, they realised that they have married a very different individual! Nothing can be further from the Truth. Relationships are like food, your failure to chew on it leads to indigestion..LOL. Certainly marrying the wrong person can be more harmful than a simple indigestion. Therefore, you should spend more time chewing, don't just swallow and get on with dessert. Since the chewing process can take a long time, when there is so much to learn about her, it can be boring unless she was someone inspiring.

Even after years of dating, the man does not know his woman completely. How then do we ensure that we do not marry the wrong person? The answer is simple, you will never marry the wrong person as long as he or she inspires you. This is because there is always something about that person that interests you, complements you and probably is your role model. Here, the mental chemistry is fulfilled. Unlike physical chemistry, it does not fade with time.

Love is a life long journey, so is learning. Hence, couples should never stop learning about each other. Once you learn more about your partner, you will either hate or love him or her. But rest assured, if you married someone who inspires you, that inspiration will ensure that your learning process is endless and so is that mutual love.