Public Display of Affection (PDA)

When we were little boys and girls, do you remember how we disliked the opposite sex? Kissing and hugging in public was almost inconceivble. I don't even remember my dad telling my mum he loves her or kissing her in front of us. They probably did not do it because the kids would close their eyes till it is over! But as we grew up, we realised how important the feeling of touch is. It communicates love in a way which words alone cannot express. Now my dad holds my mum's hands as they walk.

So now when my mum walks with me and puts her arm around mine, I actually like the feeling. It is a physical reminder of love when we don't say the "I love yous" in public. Although the truth is my mum likes to rub against my smooth skin..LOL. Personally, I enjoy holding of hands, kisses and hugs in public. That physical act transmits unspoken love from one being to another. Behind closed doors, it would have to be cuddles! Sometimes I will feel a chill down my spine, the feeling is awesome. That is the sensation we live to experience.

We probably notice most couples showing PDA when they are dating and it is neglected after marriage. This should not be the case. I believe that affirmation should always be there for the next 60 years of your life. As humans, I do believe constant affirmation is required to keep that fire burning. I hope I am not just a hopeless romantic! One should be generous and really consistent. The same behavior is required for success in anything you seek to achieve. If you keep sending positive signals to your brain, you will achieve it. So why should love be any different?

Do I then support PDA? Of course! As long as it does not embarrass others. Speaking of embarrassing PDA, I will definitely not forget one incident my sister and I witnessed. I was shopping with my sister. As we stood on the escalator, there was a couple in front of us. The guy was like an octopus. I wish there was an electric gadget on his girlfriend's body to stop the act. He reached underneath his girlfriend's blouse and his hand was touching every inch of her body, front and back! If I had to rate PDAs, this would score the least! The next day as I was walking home, I witnessed another couple walking in front of me, they were holding hands. Suddenly their eyes locked and they kissed gently. Now that was an envious sight.

PDA can be an addiction because it is pleasurable. Teenagers will probably think PDA is fine as long as it feels right, right? Can we use feelings as a yardstick to determine the level of PDA we can engage in? Ever wondered what happens when you think drugs taste great and you get addicted to them? Once you engage in it, there is no turning back. It can lead to Sex when it gets too pleasurable and the consequences are too complicated for teenagers to handle. Guys should understand that PDA is an act to show affirmation of love between couples and not a conquering act to show other male species that you have finally conquered the female species. The only time males successfully conquer the female species is when they can relate to them without fear and there should be respect. If we are not careful in our act of PDA, the feeling is wrongly communicated and it can hurt the female species.

Having said all these, I hope PDA never ends. It affirms my belief that love continues to exist.