Love matters

I was browsing through a survey which sought to determine if the one you were with was the 'right one' for you and for him. One of the questions had me pondering repeatedly as I went through the questions in the survey.

Question: If your future spouse had a serious accident that maimed or disfigured him/her for life, would your love remain strong? Could your love survive without physical expression?

Can I really do that? That's why you should never marry someone with extreme good looks. You will probably feel insecure around him or that was the only thing that convinced you that he is the 'one'. If it isn't good looks that attracted me, what did attract me to certain men? I tried to reflect on the encounters I had with ex-boyfriends and understand what was it that attracted me to them.

Ian was the first person I felt crazy about. He definitely had good looks. But I realised that it was his ambitious and humorous character that sent me 'ga-ga' over hm. After Ian, was Vince. Vince was great because he was loyal and caring. I never lacked the attention I sought. He had above average looks. Dell was no where near good looking. But he was attentive, caring and wise. He was very much a father figure to me.

At this point, I realised that I was not looking for Mr Universe. The men that attracted me were often average looking. I was in love with them because they were all very loving and caring towards me. They were very happy whenever we were together (we realised that there was no greater joy in life). Perhaps that was the way they caught my attention and made me decide to further our relationships from the dating phase.

I tried picturing myself, being married to anyone of them and if they were disfigured or maimed for life, what would I do? Would I still feel the same about them? How would I have coped? Instantly, a vision came to me.

I could feel the pain in my soul as well as theirs. Every day, I would say a silent prayer and hold on to the wonderful past we both shared. When I gazed into those eyes, I would see the eyes that I once fell for and decided to spend the rest of my life with. This was not the time to give up, but a time to bear that cross in my life. At times, I may fall or feel weary, but I will learn to pick myself up. I won't give up till it is accomplished. What would drive me is the love and loyalty in me.

I would have known that the 'one' who fell for me was not doing so because of physical involvement and likewise I would have done the same. What drew us and kept us together had to be intangible and not physical. That is what Love is all about and what really matters in love. How could I not feel happy and fortunate while still being in the relationship? I always believe few people would have experienced it. At this point, I know that my beliefs are sound. I should not compromise on those standards as it would not have led me to eternal love or me maintaining that eternal love (it may cause us to stray).

I should, therefore, wait and until that someone who shares the same commitment and definition of true love appears and recognises me, I should keep away from the temptations of being someone different. Now I know I am capable of unconditional love; a love that every one seeks in life. That is the true meaning of life. So can you do the same?


Before I end today's entry, here is something truly beautiful which I stumbled upon while surfing the internet.

To my soulmate,

Return to Me

My heart aches,
A part of me is missing.

You are my great passion,
My great love

How clearly you appear in my dreams,
You are in my blood, my soul.

I cry out your name to the endless sky,
Summoning the spirits to assist me.

I must have you,
I can wait no longer.

Return to me,
I command thee.

An inner voice whispers your name,
Visions of your face appear everywhere.

The time has come to open your eyes,
To see the wondrous life that awaits us.

Open your heart,
Allow my love to penetrate the barriers.

Fly quickly to me,
Fall into my loving arms.

In your mind,
You know we are meant to be together.

Surely you must realize,
Our reunion is inevitable.

Can you not see,
How right we are together.

Does your heart not ache,
When you are alone in your thoughts – thinking of me.

Do you not yearn
For my gentle ways, my loving spirit.

Shed the negative thoughts,
That bend your mind,

Cast off the bonds that keep us apart,
Drum up the courage to do what’s right.

Fate dictates our coupling,
Return so our destiny can be fulfilled.

Come back to my warm embrace,
Come bask in the warmth of my unconditional love.

I ask the Gods,
To do this one last thing.

And I shall forever be grateful,
When I hear your footsteps outside the door.

Returning to me.