My ideal relationship

I have never tried to conceive an idea of my ideal relationship. Maybe it is because I didn't want to be disappointed and possibly miss my soulmate because he failed to live up to my expectations. But I guess this is what a journal is for! I can fantasise all I want in here, right?

In my ideal relationship, my partner is a very loving person. He loves hugs and surprises me with his kisses. Surprise kisses makes me shiver down the spine and my eyes widen, showing an element of surprise. With that, I will reward him with a wide smile and soulful look in the eyes. I love to utilise all 6 senses as I believe it is essential for bonding. That is how I get physical gratification.

The relationship is one that is enriching. Filled with open communication. Partners should be able to discuss about their joys, beliefs and complaints. In a good relationship, both parties are interested listeners. They should not offer any advice unless specifically asked. I think this is especially important for men to note. Women often just want to be listened to, but are not looking for advice. My mum agrees with me. When she complains to my dad or voices an opinion, my dad starts giving his opinion and offers some answers. My mum revealed to me that that is not what she wanted and most of the time, she does not agree with his answers or suggestions..LOL. That is why, I think men should just listen unless asked to provide the answer. For this reason, God created us with a pair of ears and only one mouth. By offering a listening ear, we too learn more about our partners. This is of paramount importance to eternal happiness. Plus, we get to learn about each other's experiences, just like reading a book, except our partners are the storytellers..LOL. It is through sharing of views in a non-judgemental manner that couples gain mental chemistry.

I also like working together with my partner. Sharing is one of my favourite activities, especially when you work towards a common goal. The sweetness of success draws us together. It also provides a great opportunity to learn how each party copes with difficulties, how he handles stress and how he feels during the time spent with me. I believe the best time one can exercise this is when traveling together. That is when you get to know about each other beyond dating in restaurants.

I like my relationship to be fun. Humor is very important. That way you can laugh at each other's weaknesses and forgive each other for our mistakes. If we were to take everything seriously, couples may experience "irreconcilable differences" which is the common excuse for divorces. With humor, you are likely to be more forgiving which is essential for going through good times and the bad. Humor helps couples fulfill their emotional needs through emotional chemistry.

I love presents, both giving and receiving. I treasure presents because they are a symbol of that person's love. In addition, through presents you can actually tell how considerate and observant your partner is. For this reason, women enjoy receiving presents from guys.. bet you guys don't even know you are being tested when doing so..LOL. So guys, make sure you choose your presents carefully, you will be tested. Wrong presents can be a turnoff... in her mind, it will just ring "It is so wrong." At this point I wonder if guys can use this as a break-up technique and make up technique. If you wanted to break-up and do not want to tell her "have a good life", just give her all the wrong presents. It is a signal to her that you are not interested in her anymore. But if you want to make-up, get something to tell her that you want to get back. Show her that you still remember what she loves. Sounds great for guys who have a huge problem with ego. If presents were a good way to test your understanding of her likes and dislikes, men should really do that more often. For me, my mate should never forget my birthday. Trust me, it will be a big mistake if he did..LOL.

In my ideal relationship, spiritual needs will also need to be satisfied. Common morals are important, in particular, integrity. Without integrity, men would not know how to commit and keep their commitments. Without it, how can you fulfill the vow of "till death do us part". A man who can keep his commitments is one that is respectful. That is one of the prerequisites to a good relationship. When both partners share the same morals, they develop spiritual chemistry. Last but not least, in my ideal relationship, there is always an element of trust. Both parties have to trust each other otherwise their doubtful nature will ruin their relationship. She will always wonder if she is good enough, if he has found someone else and he probably wonders if he is good enough for her, if she is happy being with him and is she seeing anyone else? Mutual trust is important and is earned through respect. That is why, I do not believe in rushing into sexual gratification when dating. If a man truly respects me, he will wait till the time is right for both of us.


Is my ideal relationship realistic? I believe so. He only has to possess the following qualities (WITH):

1. Wisdom;
2. Integrity;
3. Trust; and
4. Humor.

Have I found my ideal relationship...I am still working on it...(",).